Homeschooling a Pre-teen

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We’ve been home schooling since the kiddo was three. She’s never attended a traditional education environment, and hasn’t stepped a toe into a public school . We’ve always used our world around us as a constant stream of things to learn.

When the kiddo was younger, it seemed easier to find playdates, and have exciting activities during the day.

These pre-teen and teenage years are different. There’s time on the i-Pad, sourcing information, research and gaming on the computer and reading on the kindle. Kids are so much more tech savvy these days. And with that, they seem more immersed in the digital aspect of interacting and not the face-to-face.


We’re at a bit of a crossroads, where the kiddo wants more interaction, with other like minded kids, but this pre-teen age – most of here peers aren’t as socially prepared. It’s tough.

and yes, sometimes we manage to meet up at a park, and just be kids!

But we’re managing. We’ve found a good group of homeschool kids and are getting together bi-weekly to work on parent led projects.

At home we still focus on the important things. There’s Math and Language Arts, and Creative Writing, in our reading lessons we incorporate History and a bit of Science.

What’s been good about letting my pre-teen manage her learning style is allowing her to explore career ideas, and making good decisions on how to achieve them. We focus on the WHY it’s important to create better study habits, and WHY it’s important to learn certain lessons.

Presenting the WHY, has alleviated some of the less cooperative times when homeschooling “feels like work”. It’s all a bunch of building blocks, that are creating her foundation for the years to come.


If you have a teen or pre-teen homeschooler, what sort of activities do you do to balance your days between books and activities?

When did I become a middle-aged woman?

Over the years, I’ve settled into this “middle-aged” life and have become less personally driven. I’ve never liked the word settle, yet I do feel… unsettled. Now I’m in the process of figuring out the WHY.

Recently, I took some time between my jencation winter 2018 and the new year, and decided to get back to basics.

I’ve begun to read a great Danish book called the Little Book of Hygge, which has spring-boarded a renewed interest in myself and my surroundings.

I used to make more plans, have personal goals, and was creative. What I’ve been lacking was personal structure.

I realize that over the years I put that off, and focused on family, the kiddo, our pugs – I became what was holding myself back. Not wanting to fail, but that set me up for not doing what I want or love. I needed to finally realize that it wasn’t about the fear, and more about the actual execution. The doing.

Now I need to reacquaint myself with more of the things I love and make time to do them. Find new interests and rekindle old lost hobbies. I’m fortunate, the boy and kiddo are beyond supportive. Kinda like the overly enthusiastic mom that tells her kid they can do anything they set their mind to. (I’m that kind of mom.) But it’s weird having that sort of support being directed at myself.

Josh would rather me do something, anything and everything… because he truly believes I can. Whenever I show him something I’ve created or learned how to make, he’s genuinely excited. I’ve decided to accept that train of thought. Adopt it as my own.

I’ve started using a new day planner, as a way to make sure that I remind myself to be more creative. One of the things I’ve set as a “to-do” is to blog once a week. I’ve been guest posting once a month on his blog for the past 4 months, and it’s been refreshing to come up with a topic to add different content for his readers. Now it’s time to take my creative writing skills, and apply it to my personal blog.

PS – I’m glad if you’re here, reading my blog!

I don’t really have readers, or the same viewership he does, but I’m just starting out. As the boy says, “Take action, and begin today.” Speaking of taking action… if you know me, I’m KINDA the girl who sings the praises of having a budget and love sharing some of my insight. This has recently brought me a few friends that are looking for the same kind of freedom and guidance. So I’ve created some personalized spreadsheets for them and have become their accountability partner for their budget. Sure there are days when they probably don’t like me, and maybe even all me all sorts of bad names… but I’m excited to see them grow and learn about their financial situations, and hope my help with put them on a more sound path with their money. Wanna learn more, read my post: The B word

I think between moving and my tinnitus, I’ve felt more out of sorts. A good friend suggested a while back that I paint my view of tinnitus. That might be a good place to begin with being more creative artistically.

I’m hoping that creating and doing, and helping others, will improve my general well being. I’m actually quite happy and content, but now I want more; I want to be over the moon.

Speaking of moon, did you see the Blood Wolf Moon this past Sunday/Monday? It was so pretty.

I’m also getting back to reading more. in 2017 I set a reading goal of 20 books and read 24! Last year, 2018 I set the goal to 25, and only made it to 15! I was just lazy, and unfocused and there are too many great shows between Netflix and Hulu.

I’ve sought out some fun travel shows on Netflix to help broaden my horizons and get educated and prepared for our world schooling eduventure. Our plan is to hopefully be heading off in about 3 years.

A Real LetterJoy Review

I find it odd. When searching for actual customer reviews and testimonials for the LetterJoy, there aren’t many.

I WONDER WHY?

If you haven’t heard about LetterJoy, it’s a subscription that sends one historic letter a week to your mail box. Their tag is something like: “History’s best letters to your door”

The boy gifted me a 3 month subscription this Christmas. When I heard what he picked out for me, I was geeked. This was going to be the gift that kept on giving, and I was eager to also get their educational letters since we homeschool.

HOWEVER… I’ve had 3 separate issues and have been given the runaround by whomever mans their FB messenger – which is where I contacted them to (hopefully) resolve my issue(s).

My general overview and review of the LETTERJOY service is: cool concept, but too many glitches, lackluster customer support, and I feel they still haven’t rectified my account situation. In short, I was awarded TWO WHOLE ADDITIONAL LETTERS “for my troubles” and still crossing my fingers, toes and eyes whilst I await their arrival!! Below is my blanket review of LetterJoy for anyone that cares to read:

Got LetterJoy as a gift. Have had 3 separate issues with my account. Since this was a gift, I contacted them through their FB messenger. My first letter arrived (late- but I figured NBD) was excited, and happy… at first. Then my second letter arrived with 2 duplicate pages. I contacted c/s- was told they wouldn’t send a replacement- that they would add a letter to the end of my subscription (after a lot of verbal run around)… ok- so incomplete letter #2 – letter #3 never even arrived. I live in a pretty big city, no inclimate weather conditions, and got ALL my other mail timely. After a lot of back and forth I was given excuses, and ambiguous solutions that I had to ask for actual clarification… more than once. SUPER FRUSTRATING. Felt like I was dealing with a bot. As it stands, I’m NOW awaiting letters #2 and #3 – which I have been advised they are resending, and then hopefully whatever else is supposed to arrive as per my gift subscription – oh and TWO whole additional letters “for my troubles” As of now, I’m definitely underwhelmed. Hopefully others haven’t had my same negative experience with their customer service. It’s a cool concept and I was totally geeked when I found out about my gift… BUT- it doesn’t feel like Christmas every week when I open my mailbox and get NOTHING!!

the B word

I used to hate the B word.

Sometimes when I use it, I get “the look”. You know that look, it’s the seemingly confused, nearly disapproving look.

I’m talking about the BUDGET.

So back in 2017 January, the boy made me reluctantly read the Dave Ramsey book, “Total Money Makeover.”

At first I read half heartedly. I knew what the premise of the book was, and I understood why I was asked to read the “good book”.

We were looking for a way to make a drastic change, and become EVEN MORE financially stable.

Now let me just say, we didn’t really have credit card debt, We had gotten that under control a long while ago, but we were rolling. By that I mean, we used a card or two, and then paid them off when the statement came in. In essence that meant we were always a month behind financially to what we were bringing in monthly. Doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it was a little bit of a crutch.

After reading the “good book”, we took a few months to plan out our actual budget. We saw where we had some “leakage”, where we could tighten up and get laser focused on creating an actual savings account.

Every little thing went onto our spreadsheet. We had weekly Sunday morning meetings, to discuss what we spent money on, addressed needs and wants and went on FINANCIAL LOCKDOWN. We actually argued over $20. But we had to get on the same page, on track and understand each other and our money.

It was difficult. Those $5 coffees really add up. Grabbing a bottled water when out shopping added to the bottom line. Ordering delivery pizza every Friday evening… that was a major change. Sure we were living a nice and comfortable life, #havingfun -but we were also making some inexpensive mistakes, that could easily be rectified.

We all got on board. Armed with this new info, we made coffee at home about 75% of the time in lieu of grabbing one out. We bought filtered water bottles and took them along when we left the house. We started grabbing a frozen pizza for our Friday nights, and only ordered out once a month- and we usually would just drive and get it. We even made sure to include a little monthly family fun money, and we each had a column to cover a little extra fun- that was tracked to the cent.

Fast forward 2 years later and we’re in 2019.

We’ve managed to financially get by while the boy took time to work on a (failed) project. There wasn’t a paycheck or funding, which made things difficult. Kiddo had an expensive dance and medical year, and we had a minor medical scare with my little old man. We got through it, a little easier, because we budget.

So 2019- what are our plans? Do we have any financial goals? Of course we do. We’re paying off my car. That means doubling and tripling up payments whenever we can throughout the year- once all the monthly bills are paid and the spreadsheet says it’s ok!

It’s become a bit of a game for me. I’m excited to see how fast we will get my SUV to PIF status. My guess is it will take to the end of 2019, as planned- with no foreseen surprises. Josh thinks we’ll do it a bit sooner than that. Either way, we’re all on board to make it happen.

Getting on a budget can be difficult and overwhelming at first. While we’re growing up as children, we rarely think about money and its value. As we enter adulthood, many of us make financial mistakes, get in over our head and are trying to figure out HOW to afford to live. Everyone is trying to keep up with each other. Then as we are actual “grown ups”, we have more added responsibilities as home owners and parents.

All of this growing up time, we really don’t have a good idea about how to treat our money, how to make it work for us in the best way possible. We get sidetracked and bamboozled by the things we think we want or need.

We get off track.

Getting back on track takes focus. It takes the desire. It means taking a good hard look at yourself, your lifestyle and your money.

I tend to treat the dolla dolla billz like our personal little money soldiers in the war of our personal finances. After some soul searching and a kickass spreadsheet or two, I’m feeling super confident and happy about the B word.

It looks good on me! 🙂

If you’re interested in my awesome spreadsheet LMK in the comments below. I’ve already shared it out to a friend or two and have helped them to get back on track.

Hello 2019

I’ve been doing some guest posting on the boy’s website, and this year 2019, I’ve decided that I should get back to my own blog.

We ported everything over to this lovely WORDPRESS site, and eventually I’ll give my blog a bit of sprucing up and some TLC. #dontgochasingwaterfalls

OK, so what’s been going on?

Just a short and sweet catch up:

Kiddo isn’t dancing, has taken up drums, and still homeschooling.

Pugs- the boys are getting older but are still alive and kicking.

the boy- new job and focusing more on his own projects. seems much happier now!

ME- fighting laziness and attempting to be more creative. Personally – I think I need to paint more. LP- need to keep her interested in homeschooling. the boy- needs more QT with me.

I’ll just say that we’re moving forward on this journey of life.

I’m focusing more on manifesting and keeping an abundance mentality, although I’d like the abundance in my thighs to diminish. LOL

More to come as I will make more of an effort to write. 🙂